The “Leper’s cry” of the hard of hearing

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The “leper’s cry” of the Bible sounds like the cry of the hard of hearing. “I’m hard of hearing! I’m hard of hearing” is our cry whenever we meet people. We must constantly inform others of our need to communicate.

In the book of Leviticus, I found a story that I can relate to: the account of a person who is a leper. Here are the guidelines outlined in the Book. Chapter 13, verses 45 and 46:

           “As for the leper who has the infection, his clothes shall be torn, and the hair of his head shall be uncovered, and he shall cover his mustache and cry, Unclean! Unclean!’ and he shall dwell alone; his dwelling shall be outside the camp.”

Lepers were excluded from the place of worship by law and required to go into isolation from the public. They became outcasts to their friends and loved ones. One requirement by law was to announce loudly “Leper, Leper!” so that people would clear out of the way. That is the leper’s cry.

Tradition says that if a leper got too close to other people, they would curse him and throw rocks at him.

A parallel to the hard of hearing community: hearing loss is a stigma that society does not want to handle.  Should hard of hearing be separated from the hearing public and not allowed to interact? It seems easier just to avoid them. People feel frustrated when they do not know how to communicate with hard of hearing.

Hard of hearing are cursed or tagged with names like “retarded, slow, or stupid” and statements like, “He only hears what he wants to hear” or “He has selective hearing.” These are stones that drive hard of hearing out of church and public life into isolation and separation from their loved ones.

They may feel shunned in the workplace, schools, play grounds, parties and socials and often in their families. Churches fear that accommodating hard of hearing will draw too many of those so called “strange or odd” people. Most handicaps are not well accepted because it seems like too much work to be a blessing to those people.

Hard of hearing need to declare their disability in public places. Everywhere I go, I tell people, “I’m hard of hearing. Please face me; I lip read.” My family is constantly telling others that I am hard of hearing, and to get his attention first. I feel like the leper crying out, “Hard of hearing! I’m hard of hearing” all day long.  If I do not speak up about my hearing loss, communication is more difficult.

I would rather stay home than to attend a church service, Sunday school class, Bible study or prayer meeting where I can barely understand what is going on. I feel driven into isolation because I cannot function in a hearing world.

In the year 2007, the Lord impressed me to start a ministry called, “LET MY PEOPLE HEAR Inc.”, to encourage churches to include hard of hearing in all programs and activities of the church. We are on a crusade to create hearing accessible environments wherever people gather.

In the 14th chapter of Leviticus, the writer declares the “Law of the Leper,” giving extensive instructions on reclaiming lepers back into the church and society. It is a great day when a leper is healed and restored to normal life again.

Today there is very little written in the American Disabilities Act (ADA) on how to include the hard of hearing in the church and public life. We are working on a book, “how to create a hearing accessible environment for the hearing impaired.”

For more information go to www.letmypeoplehear.com or write letmypeoplehear@yahoo.com

Until the Trumpet Sounds:  LET MY PEOPLE HEAR!     

David M. Harrison

Hear Now Cafe Valentine Special

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The Hear Now Café, a support group for hard of hearing will be meeting on February, 10, 2012 at 7 p.m. in Chattanooga, TN. This meeting will be a special valentine event and will be serving a unique homemade valentine dessert. There will be a drawing for a box of Godiva chocolates.

This is the press release that was sent out earlier:

WHAT: David M. Harrison, Director of the Hear Now Café, a support group for hard of hearing people, invites all hearing impaired people and friends to attend a special valentine event. This event a hearing accessible meeting and is equipped with our FM listening system for hard of hearing to see, hear and understand everything. There is no charge for this event.

WHEN: The meeting will be on Friday, February 10, 2012 at 7 p.m. Our chef will be baking a homemade valentine dessert for this special event. The Hear Now Café meets on the second Friday of every month.

WHERE: The group will meet at the Ridgeview Baptist Church in the activity center at 6 N. Moore Road and Brainerd Road, Chattanooga, TN 37411

WHO: The Hear Now Café is open to all hard of hearing people, friends and families. People who want to learn how to deal with the struggle of hearing loss should attend. Meet others who are dealing with the same problems with hearing.

WHY: There is a great need for a Christian based support group that reaches out to hard of hearing. Every business and church needs to become hearing accessible for the hard of hearing.

Hard of hearing people are searching for places to attend that are hearing accessible, including churches. Our mission is to help churches make simple adjustments to become hearing accessible.

The purpose of the Hear Now Café is to build a strong caring Christian community, a network of loving support for the hard of hearing. The ramp for the hard of hearing is not built out of wood and steel, but a better method of communication called hearing accessibility. .  We are helping people who have lost hearing, and want to improve their quality of life. Come join us.

RSVP deadline by Feb. 8 by calling 423-624-1669 or e-mail: letmypeoplehear@yahoo.com

You can reach us on facebook to register:  http://on.fb.me/xyRQnh

Until the Trumpet Sounds: LET MY PEOPLE HEAR!

David M. Harrison

Four-Fold Mission for Hard of Hearing

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Let My People hear is a ministry of compassion helping hard of hearing people who seek solutions to overcome daily struggles of hearing loss.  Some hard of hearing people tend to shy away from social life because they cannot function well in a hearing world. We have a four-fold purpose for building our organization.

1.       Create a “Hear Now” community of hard of hearing friends who desire to band together and seek ways to improve communication in everyday life. We focus on the church, educational institutions, the work place, and the home. 

2.   Develop a means of interaction with the hard of hearing community to share their challenges and solutions with others who care. The community or group offers their empathy, prayers and encouragement. This is a form of non-professional peer mentoring by hard of hearing people.
  

3.      Get hard of hearing people to identify themselves as persons with hearing loss. Avoid keeping it a secret. Let your family and friends know that you have a hearing problem and share how they can assist you personally.

4.      Our main course of action is to create a hearing accessible environment in the house of worship. This includes assistive listening devices in the worship service and some other type of accessible communication in other departments and activities in the church.

Twenty percent (20%) of the American people have a hearing loss. That is one out of every five people. This is a crisis situation and must be addressed by the hard of hearing to increase public awareness. Begin by joining the “Hear Now” community or support group by “Like”-ing our page on Facebook and joining our mailing list.

Tell us your story. We will rally around you with love and prayers and begin seeking solutions for our needs.

Until the Trumpet Sounds: LET MY PEOPLE HEAR!

David M. Harrison

“Your Hearing Loss Is Not Important To Us.”

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Some people treat hearing loss as not important enough to address. Hard of hearing who try to address the need for hearing accessibility in church are sometimes ignored or neglected. They are put off by something like this: “Your hearing loss is not important to us.” There are six areas where the hearing world may say, “Your hearing loss is not important to us.”

  1. In the HOME
    All my life I grew up missing out on hearing everyday family conversation in the home. Many times I asked, “What are you talking about?” or “What did he say?” or “I didn’t get the joke. What was the punch line?” The answer would be, “Never mind, it was not important, or I’ll tell you later.” My thought was, “will the joke be funny when I hear the punch line later?”
  2. In the Church
    The struggle to hear and understand increases without use of an assistive device in the church sanctuary. I would miss many important details from the pulpit and would hear a person say, “It is not important, I’ll tell you later.” Some people felt that I was disrupting the service by asking questions.
  3. In the prayer meeting
     When I sit on the front row in a prayer meeting, I cannot hear the requests spoken behind me. When I turned around to see who is speaking, the voice stopped. I depend on lip-reading and need to see who is making the request. To compound my frustration, the leader will ask me to pray specifically for these requests. When I confess that I could not hear any of those requests given, the response was, “Never mind, it is not important. Just pray.”
  4. Group Bible Study
    These meetings can be very exhausting for me to follow. The teacher may ask us to look up Bible passages in rapid succession. It is difficult for most hard of hearing to look up scripture verses while reading the teacher’s lips. It is hard to stay on track when I misunderstand so many words. When I ask for a reference check or a repeat, the statement comes, “Don’t worry, the references are not important; just listen.”
  5. Music
    One day I discovered that the words to songs did not register in my brain. This is a challenge for hard of hearing people. I would not know if the songs were sung in Spanish, French or English. One of the directors of music told me that the words were not important; just enjoy the music. Making the words available just for me was not convenient.
  6. The Preaching of the Word
    Following the pastor was more difficult than I had realized. Hard of hearing people depend on reading the speaker’s lips along with some assistive listening device. This was the final blow to my ego, to discover that I understood so little of the sermon. Some pastors would pace back and forth across the platform. This was before the lavaliere microphone. Sometimes, he would preach to the choir, then come down off the platform where lighting was poor and walk up and down the aisles behind where I was sitting. To emphasize a point, he would lower his voice to whisper his important point.

This is not the story of one pastor in one church. These are different incidents in different churches I have witnessed over the years. While attending a large church, I discovered that I could not hear or understand most of the service. It was a great blow to me that I had never realized it before; I thought it was normal for everyone. My question was, “What am I doing here in church, if I can’t hear or understand what’s going on?”

With a broken heart, I consulted one of the associate pastors and shared my dilemma to hear. “Was there something that the church could recommend to help me hear better?” He was irritated with my request and responded, “There is nothing we can do for you.” The implication was that my hearing loss was not important to him or the church family.

At that point in my life, I did the unthinkable, I dropped out of church.  Ten years later I enrolled in the American Academy for Hearing Loss Support Specialist, to become an advocate for the hard of hearing in the church. There is a solution for almost all hearing or communication problems in the in the church.

Hearing accessibility means that the hard of hearing people will be able to see, hear and understand everything said in every department of the church.  Even hard of hearing people are important to the Lord and to the church. We value your presence in every service, program and activities. Today it is our goal to goal to create an ideal hearing-friendly environment for every hard of hearing person in church.

We are now writing a book explaining the guidelines for hearing accessibility beyond the assistive listening device in the sanctuary of the church.

Until The Trumpet Sounds, LET MY PEOPLE HEAR!

David M. Harrison

Six Ways to Communicate with a Hard of Hearing Spouse

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It is a lonely world when you cannot communicate with a hard of hearing spouse. The very life blood of any relationship is communication. The urge to be heard and to be understood dominates the very core of our being. The hard of hearing person struggles to hear your stories, your expressions, remarks, dreams and your requests. It may seem hopeless to even try speaking to one another.

What good is communication if one cannot hear or understand what the other is saying? It becomes frustrating when the hard of hearing person appears not to be paying attention or getting the message spoken.

Conversations often are misunderstood and can generate anger, raising of voices, and greater tension between partners. This break downs the relationship you long to have with each other. Hurt feelings may take place because neither partner knows how to deal with the hearing loss and communication problem.

Ignorance may drive a wedge between those you love until it leads to total separation, isolation and even divorce. Is there any hope for the hard of hearing and the hearing mates?

Until you understand this problem you will not be able to conquer the basic hurdles of communication. Allow me to give six steps on how to deal with this situation.

1.      Accept the fact that your spouse has a definite real-for-life hearing loss and that it will never go away or improve with nagging.

2.     Communication will now become a major issue for the rest of your life. This includes family members, friends, co-workers, and       church members.

3.     We must learn new strategies or methods of conversing that will be easy to follow.

4.     We must adjustments constantly and follow a simple guideline that can build and restore a good relationship.

5.     Be conscious at all times that your partner has a hearing loss and needs to see your face before you speak.

6.     When miscommunication is made be willing to accept the mistake, apologize and carry on. This is a learning process that will continue as long as you are together.

 Conclusion

Love can cover a multitude of sins and mistakes when it comes of good communication. All the hearing aids and technology in the world will not improve a relationship. Nagging and complaining will not add or change your communication pattern. More visits to the doctor for more medicine will not bring back the hearing that already has been destroyed.

Love needs to be patient and understanding. Love is willing to begin a new life by changing the way we communicate to each other. With much prayer life can be  wonderful.

Until the Trumpet Sounds, LET MY PEOPLE HEAR!

David M. Harrison, Hearing Loss Support Specialist

 

Eight Prayer Requests for Hard of Hearing in 2012

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 This year Cathy and I are committed to serve and pray more for our hard of hearing friends, who are often ignored and overlooked. Most of us do not understand our own hearing loss or what we need to improve communication.

The hearing world does not know what the big fuss is all about. Some think that we are playing games just to get attention.  We are accused of having selective hearing and irritate others when we ask the hearing to repeat something too many times.

Here are eight prayer requests for hard of hearing friends everywhere for the New Year 2012.

1.      Realize that you are not the only one with a hearing loss. More than forty-eight million Americans now suffer hearing loss and have difficulty with communication. One out of every five persons has a significant amount of loss that affects family, social, marital, educational, and business life.

2.     Be brave and let everyone around you know that you have a hearing loss.  Be willing to share what others can do to assist you in better communication.

3.     Seek help for your hearing loss beyond hearing aids. Those little units are not a cure-all for hearing loss.  They are not perfect and need other technical items and strategies to improve communication.

There are scores of companies that offer all kinds of assistive hearing devices. We have become dealers with William Sounds System for quality hearing at a reasonable price. Beware about buying the cheapest thing on TV. To get advice call us and we will help you.

 4.     Make your hearing loss a platform to encourage and help other hard of hearing people. In 2006 I began my search for help when I discovered an academic course on line called “The American Academy for Hearing Loss Support Specialist”. After taking the studies, I discovered my personal calling. The Lip Reading Academy was born, then the Hearing Loss Rehab Institute for hard of hearing, and now the Hear Now Café, a Christian support group for hard of hearing. We have formed a non-profit ministry called, “Let My People Hear, Inc.”

5.     Advocate hearing accessibility in your church, Bible study class, prayer meetings and all other activities.  Share with church members who are hard of hearing and begin talking about your hearing needs. We are writing a church manual on hearing accessibility. This book will be ready early this spring. Let me know if you are interested in such a book. I really need encouragement and input on this project.

6.     Find comfort in the LORD. Begin praying that God would show you how to handle difficult situations in your life. Find time to study the Word of God and claim a precious promise just for you. Find a friend who will study and pray with you. Jesus promised that He would ask the Father and He will give you another Comforter to stay with you forever and teach you all things.

7.     Brace yourself, because better hearing will be a slow progress.  Change is always difficult since we have never done it that way before. I stopped attending Sunday school classes and prayer meetings because I could not follow any discussion.

 8.     Begin your own personal accessibility campaign by personally praying for God to open the way to better communication in the church. It has been so difficult to get anyone to help me build this ministry. I soon discovered that any great movement or mission started with the burden and prayer of one person.  Begin your campaign with God alone in your prayer chamber. What do you want to happen in the next year for you? Be persistent and never give up. God honors perseverance in due time. Persistence in prayer makes the impossible possible. We have been praying for you and still pursue miracles from God for the coming year 2012.

 Until the Trumpet Sounds: LET MY PEOPLE HEAR!

 

David M. Harrison

 

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